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What is the purpose of a funeral?

Funerals provide surviving family members and friends a caring, supportive environment in which to recognize the death of a loved one, and to share thoughts and feelings about that person. Funerals are the first step in the healing process. It is possible to have a full memorial service even for those choosing cremation. The importance of the ritual is in providing a social gathering to help the bereaved begin the healing process.

Why have public viewing?

Viewing aids the grief process by helping the bereaved recognize the reality of death. Many times a viewing provides a better memory picture of the deceased when someone died of trauma or illness that effected their visual appearance.

What is the purpose of embalming?

Embalming sanitizes and retards the decomposition process and enhances the appearance of someone disfigured by traumatic death or illness. Embalming makes it possible to lengthen the time between death and the final disposition, thus allowing family members time to arrange and participate in the type of service most comforting to them.

Is embalming required by law?

No. Most states, however, require embalming when death is caused by a reportable contagious disease or when a deceased is to be transported from one state to another by common carrier, or if final disposition is not to be made within a prescribed number of hours.

Can you help with cremation arrangements?

Yes, our funeral home provides services consistent with cremation wishes. These services may range from a visitation, traditional funeral service with the body present to a simple direct cremation.

What is the purpose of a vault?

Outer burial containers enclose the casket and support the weight of the earth. Many are also designed to prevent water from entering the casket. Although no law requires that a burial vault be used, most cemeteries  require some kind of outer enclosure.

How long does grief last?

Because every grieving person is a unique personality, there is no single answer to this question. In most cases, the pain associated with the grieving begins to subside considerably in the second and third years following the loss. This means that there are more good days than difficult ones, and that the sometimes heavy feelings in earlier months are replaced by more hopeful, optimistic feelings.

What helps the grieving process?

Here are five ways to cope with the pain of loss:

  1. Seek out supportive people - Find a relative, friend neighbor, or spiritual leader who will listen without judgment and provide you with support as you sort your way through grief.
     
  2. Join a support group - Being with others who have had a similar loss is therapeutic and helpful.
     
  3. Express your feelings - Do this by confiding in a trusted friend or by writing in a journal. Expressing those powerful emotions can diminish their potentially negative effect.
     
  4. Take care of your health - Eat balanced, nutritious meals. Rest properly, and find an exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly. If you experience physical problems, consult with your physician.
     
  5. Find outside help when necessary - If your bereavement feels too heavy for you to bear, find a counselor or therapist trained in grief issues to provide guidance and support.

If you have any questions, feel free to email us at john@barnettfuneralhome.net